Have you ever wanted to talk about your goals or Yellows with your partner, but never felt like it was the right time?
I remember being in past relationships and wanting to ask the other person about how their goals were going, or wanted to update them on mine.
But when was the right time?
After a really long, tiring workday?
When we had 15 minutes on the way to dinner with my family?
Was the other person in a headspace to have that conversation?
So when 1 year ago my boyfriend asked me if we could have a weekly, Sunday morning breakfast to talk about our goals - I was totally on board!
Especially since we didn’t live together, Sunday morning breakfast created a clear time for us to connect.
yes this is us in our matching Maisy sweatshirts :)
As two very busy people going after big goals — me writing a book and him building a rocket (yes we are going big here) — our Sunday morning breakfast has been key to balancing our personal goals with the relationship.
Our relationship is not perfect, but here are 4 questions we ask over Sunday morning breakfast that have opened the lines of communication on our goals:
How did your goals go last week?
This is great accountability to whatever you said you were going to do the week before.
I’ve also found this to be a great designated time to check in, instead of every day asking “hey did you do that thing yet?”
What are your goals this week?
Makes you get clear on the priorities for the week, and helps you communicate to the other person what you have going on and where you’re putting your energy.
How can I make this week easier on you?
Does dropping off dinner make your day easier? Does letting the dog out Thursday make your day easier?
I also think about it as enabling the other person to meet their goals - such as being on board with shutting off the Netflix and going to bed because you know the person needs to sleep before a big day tomorrow.
What is something the other person did to make you feel loved this last week?
I saw someone on LinkedIn post this and wish I remember who, but this is how we close our Sunday morning.
It has helped us acknowledge the little things each other does amongst the busyness.
And you might think you know the other person’s answer to this question, but almost every week I am surprised what stood out to him ;)
The best part about these questions? Meeting your goals becomes a lot more fun because someone has taken the ride with you ;)