If you want to do more than work, scroll social, watch tv, and drink, you're not alone.
When I was 23 and started my first job, I wanted to…
Start a podcast
Maybe start a business
Have a morning routine
— and I got very mixed responses from the people in my life!
Some people encouraged & enabled me
(shout out to my 1st roommate for letting me turn off our loud air conditioning for a hour so I could record a podcast in the closet)
Some people didn't understand my mindset at all
(I encouraged an ex-partner to get into more things, and the response I got was "I don't do projects like you do." Ok got it.)
So do the people in our life need to be on board with us doing more?
Yes and no.
If you want to be more, start doing more.
Set the example for the life you want to live.
Some people will:
Encourage you
Make it easier for you to do it
Want to do it with you
Invite them, hold onto them, have gratitude for them!
Others will:
Not understand or encourage
Not make it easier to do it
Not want to join you in it
3 ways to still take action when people don't get it:
1) Don't force anyone to do or think anything; set the example
Ex: you want to go on a run in the morning with your partner
Invite them along, but forcing them may not be the move.
You can still go if they don't want to & set the example for the life you want to live
2) Still communicate what you want to do
Ex: you have a friend or parent who doesn't understand that you want to start a business
Tell those you trust what you're working on, little by little (yes, it can be scary!)
That's the only way you'll give them the opportunity to support, enable you, or connect you to someone who has a similar mindset to you
3) Sync your schedule to their tendencies so you can keep living the life you want
Example: my Maisy pup
She has so much energy in the morning, but I want to work on my business. So I cater to her first and get her energy out, and then work on my business.
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Don’t let other people stop you from doing what you want to do.
Set the example, communicate, sync your schedule.
The more you take action, the more likely you're to find your people.